By Paul Yung
Gong Xi Fa Cai! Happy Chinese New Year! As we usher in the year of the snake, and as our fortune and fame comes through our doors, I find that I sometimes struggle with imposter syndrome. After sold out events and record sales, it puzzles me sometimes why people would want to come to our events.
Imposter syndrome can make even the most accomplished people feel like frauds. It’s that nagging belief that you don’t deserve your success, that you’re not as capable as others think, or that you’re simply “faking it” and will soon be found out. These feelings are more common than you might think and affect individuals across all industries and levels of success. However, with the right strategies, you can overcome imposter syndrome and build unshakeable confidence.
- Recognize and Understand It
Acknowledge the Feeling: The first step to combating imposter syndrome is to recognise when it’s happening. Understand that this isn’t a reflection of your actual abilities but rather a distorted perception of yourself. Simply naming the feeling can reduce its power over you.
Identify Triggers: Pay attention to the situations that intensify your self-doubt. Is it presenting in meetings, starting new projects, or receiving praise? Knowing your triggers can help you address them more effectively.
Understand its Prevalence: Studies show that imposter syndrome affects people across all walks of life, from students to CEOs. Realising you’re not alone can help normalise the experience and make it feel less overwhelming.
- Reframe Negative Thoughts
Focus on Facts: Replace self-doubt with evidence. When you think, “I don’t belong here,” counter it with, “I was chosen for this role because of my skills and experience.” Facts are powerful tools against distorted thoughts.
Shift Perspective: Instead of viewing mistakes as proof of inadequacy, see them as opportunities for growth. Remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes, and they are a natural part of learning and improving.
Challenge Perfectionism: Many people with imposter syndrome hold themselves to impossible standards. Accept that being “good enough” is often more than sufficient, and perfection isn’t necessary for success.
- Celebrate Your Achievements
Document Successes: Keep a journal of your achievements, no matter how small. When self-doubt creeps in, revisit this list to remind yourself of your accomplishments and capabilities.
Accept Compliments* Instead of deflecting praise, practice simply saying, “Thank you.” Acknowledging compliments can help you internalise positive feedback.
Reward Yourself: Celebrate your wins, big and small. Recognising your efforts and milestones can reinforce a positive sense of self-worth.
- Build a Support Network
*Talk About It: Share your feelings with trusted friends, mentors, or colleagues. You may find they’ve experienced similar struggles and can offer valuable perspectives or advice.
Seek Mentorship: A mentor can provide reassurance, guidance, and constructive feedback. They can also help you see your progress and potential more clearly.
Join Communities: Engaging with professional or personal development groups can help you connect with others who understand and support your journey.
- Focus on Growth, Not Perfection
Adopt a Learning Mindset: View every challenge as an opportunity to grow. Instead of fearing failure, focus on what you can learn from each experience.
Set Realistic Goals: Break larger tasks into smaller, achievable steps. This approach can help you build confidence as you accomplish each milestone.
Celebrate Progress: Growth is a journey. Acknowledge and appreciate how far you’ve come, even if there’s still more to achieve.
- Practice Self-Compassion
Be Kind to Yourself: Treat yourself with the same empathy and understanding you’d offer a friend. Recognise that it’s okay to feel uncertain sometimes.
Challenge Negative Self-Talk: When you catch yourself thinking, “I’m not good enough,” reframe it to, “I’m doing my best, and that’s enough.”
Take Care of Yourself: Regular self-care, such as exercise, proper sleep, and mindfulness practices, can boost your overall confidence and resilience.
- Remember Your Value
Finally, remind yourself of your unique strengths and contributions. You’re not expected to know everything or always be perfect. Trust in your abilities, and remember that you’re worthy of the success and opportunities you’ve earned.
Overcoming imposter syndrome is a process, not a one-time fix. With time, practice, and persistence, you can quiet the self-doubt and step into your full potential with confidence.
A quote that has helped me is “You are exactly where you are meant to be”. If you’re not happy with your current situation, change it. If you are put in a promising situation with new opportunities, recognition and promotions, you deserve it.
Wishing all of you a successful February and a happy, healthy, prosperous new year!
